7 Ways to be a Good Role for your Children
It’s not an unknown fact that kids mirror their parents. It’s how they learn and grow. They harness behavioural traits – good or bad – and make them their own. Naturally, children branch out from their parent tree and become the very fruit they bore. It is well said that ‘the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree’ and therefore, parents must monitor their actions all the time. You may not realize it, but you are making a significant difference in your child’s life - all the time. Every good or bad action you do is sculpting their impressionable minds and creating their perspective of mannerisms.
It is the immediate responsibility of parents to guide their children on the right path by showing them rather than just preaching to them. While adults teach children about right and wrong, their actions may contradict those ideas. Children are quick to see the hypocrisy of the situation and turn a deaf ear to the teachings. This can be corrected by letting your actions speak louder than words and let them learn from what you do instead.
While you can make loads of changes in your life for this cause, we’ve narrowed them down for you. Here are 7 ways in which you can be a good role model to your children.
1. LOVE YOURSELF
No, not the Justin Bieber song, but have some good appreciation for yourself. Love and be happy for who you are and only make positive, healthy changes if you feel the need for some.
If you gaze at yourself in the mirror and crib over why you are not skinnier or plumper, your child is going to set certain beauty standards for themselves, too. Loving yourself not only will make you feel awesome and confident about yourself, but your child develops a sense of confidence in their being.
2. MONEY = HAPPINESS?
If you keep complaining about how you never have enough money and blame everything around you, your kids are going to learn that good times are given only to the rich. If you are going through a cash crunch and need to cut down on expenses, do a practical budget cut – all without whining. Explain to your kids that you can still do regular, fun stuff without over expenditure and show them how you are still happy with it. They’ll learn about the value of money without having to associate unhappiness and stress with a cash crunch.
3. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
Eat healthy, sleep 7 hours, exercise, repeat. Well, not literally only that. There are other things that you would need to integrate in that as well, like work, but ensure that the above 3 lifestyle choices are an integral part of your daily routine. Eat healthy foods, avoid daily intakes of junk food and sleep for 7 hours at the very least.
Daily exercise of any form can be included in the routine as well. Being healthy and maintaining the same, teaches kids the importance of a healthy living. Every time you make bad lifestyle choices for yourself, you are setting a bad example of how to live your life before your children.
4. ADMIT WHEN YOU ERR
To err is human, but so is admitting to the same. We all make mistakes. What makes up for it is the ability to apologize and learn from them. If you have been complaining to the people around you for misplacing your car keys and eventually find the keys in your own pocket, it is your responsibility to apologize for the blunder immediately.
It helps salvage relationships without causing a hurt to their feelings in the long run. Children learn that you value the relationships more than your ego and saying sorry didn’t make you a smaller person. You earn their respect and they follow into your footsteps, too.
5. BE CHARITABLE
Involve yourself and your children in charitable work. Request your children to donate their old clothes and toys to orphanages or organizations that would do the same. This can be an alternative to the usual yard sale to sell the old items of your children. Take them to an old age home or an orphanage and help them make a few friends there.
They’ll learn that no one is inferior/superior to them owing to their financial status. Treating everyone with love and equality will be a basic part of how they live their lives.
6. LISTEN TO UNDERSTAND, NOT TO REPLY
Be attentive in your household. If your better half is talking to you, listen with respect. Understand what they are talking to you about – let it be a chore, a discussion on what car to buy or a disagreement on whether you need a dog. Make it a two-way conversation, but not at the expense of your wife/husband not being heard much. Let your partner lay out their opinions and respect them.
Do the same with your children and decipher their thought process. In a disagreement, hear them out. They may be right at times and when they are, assert with them. If they aren’t, tell them why their approach won’t work and explain an alternative way for the same.
7. POSITIVE ATTITUDE
Having a healthy scepticism over things is fine and a valuable lesson for children, but don’t turn into a cynic. Being able to have faith gives comfort in this world. Children are already burdened by daily news around the world and school and the last thing they need is a dose of negativity in their home.
If they are closing in on the deadline on a project that they haven’t had much progress in, instead of scolding them over the delay in the project, you could remind them that while starting early is always good, you are there for them and will help them complete it – if they take responsibility for their commitments henceforth.
Children are the reflections of their parents and being their role model – and a good one at that – is a good way to help them live a happy life.
Author: Prajakta Gaikwad – Blogger at Tinychaps
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